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  1. I simply must chuckle that polygamy doesn’t hold the attention of the viewers as “shock” value in and of itself anymore. Really, I must question what that says about polygamy? Ponder that one! lol

    I simply loved the statement the LDS Newsroom made in addressing “The Publicity Dilemma”. As always it was done with such respect and reverence, while still asserting a solemn rebuke. When I read statements such as this one, my testimony just seems to enlarge.

    Your points and advice concerning the HBO production of Big Love and our reactions to it are “spot on” and hopefully will be followed by all LDS members. Thank you.

  2. Rebecca A

    Thanks for your comments about this. I found this article just minutes after I heard about this upcoming episode of HBO, and I was really comforted by the quotes you refer to and your statements. Our Church is true, and it will not be stopped by things like this. Thank you.

  3. Brian B

    I heard a NPR segment about one month ago interviewing one of the creators and writers for Big Love. He (the writer) was raised in the Church and during his adolescence turned to homosexuality. As I listened to the segment, it was obvious that the writer (sorry, I forgot his name) obviously has quite a bit of emotional issues that he had to deal with as a child. It seems that Big Love is his platform to ‘get back’ at church. It’s sad, very sad. When the show was first announced a couple of years ago I thought it wouldn’t last long; but curiously, it has a solid audience base. Although it is negative advertising, it’s still advertising and the Church continues to grow and the work is still being accomplished.

  4. Laurie

    Thank you for this thought provoking article. You have calmed my emotions, set my heart at ease, and helped me to remember that we have nothing to fear.

  5. Chris

    Well said, and in keeping with the Spirit. We shouldn’t fuss about it. Let us carry on, calmly step back, and watch the Lord fight our battles, for he has promised it.

  6. Ryan

    Yeah, the Standard of Truth quote was the first thing to come to mind when I read about this issue. I also found your uplifting website too. Bonus. Keep up the good work. (D&C 101:16)

  7. Maralyn Dotson

    Thank you for your insights and thoughts on this subject. If we didn’t have opposition in this life, how would we grow and get stronger? We have to take a stand now; we cannot sit back any longer and be “Sunday Mormons.” If we are not doing something significant during the week toward sharing the gospel, we are not helping the work to move along. I know I can do much more. I appreciate the message of peace that surrounded your comments.

  8. I am continually saddened by the stories and subjects this TV series feel they need to “explore”. Why did they need to hire an ex-member if their show is supposedly about a man and his family who are not members of the church. Why did they need to recreate the temple ceremonies of the LDS church if the show is not supposedly about that church.

    In case you didn’t know, Tom Hanks is one of the producers of this show. My repect for him just plummeted to new lows.

    While I agree we shouldn’t let these things drive us to madness, I do think that we can make our voice heard. I think it is appropriate for us to let others know this is inappropriate. If we feel we need to take actions to let our voice be heard, I think we should do so in a controlled fashion. The Church’s statement on the issue underscores that members are free to respond as they see fit. I think it is appropriate for us to let the sponsors of this show know that we don’t support this show.

  9. Sylvia

    Thank you for your article here. It is refreshing to learn again about the statements made by our prophets on the destiny of our Church. And it is a blessing to read the comments following. It seems like we are a support and an encouragement to each other. Thanks for this forum to express our opinions on values and doctrines we cherish in a positive upbeat way. So much is negative and destructive out there, HBO case in point.

  10. You’re kidding! Apparently Tom has a bone to pick with the church now, too. Really sad. Apparently the ex-member forgot that God will not be mocked. I wouldn’t want to be with the Big Love bunch when they go before the Eternal Bar!

  11. AJ

    Any idea which version of the ceremony they are going to use? As far as I know, Big Love tends to mirror mainly the FLDS rather than mainstream. I am not sure what the FLDS use for a Temple Ceremony but am sure that it would not be what is current in the LDS Temple. If it is the FLDS temple ceremony, then it will be interesting to see the differences.

  12. David

    The episode apparently features a flash back to back before the characters were living an FLDS lifestyle, and were in good standing with the LDS Church. Thus, it will attempt to be a representation of the LDS version.

  13. We’ve little in common doctrinally and are hardly on the same page. But we do have the common attribute (Latter Day Saints and Jehovah’s Witnesses) of getting slammed in the popular media, and for much the same reason. I enjoyed your post.

  14. Along these same lines I was watching last week “Law and Order” where some LDS offshot group is investigated, it repeatedly shows garments sewn in black thread, and mocked by the police and attorneys.

    I think we are getting a little blow-back from Prop.8.

    -Littlefield

  15. I think we are getting a LOT of blow-back from Prop 8. (and retribution, hate, etc) We apparently got the attention of the adversary…

  16. Doc

    The x-Mormon writer for Big Love is Dustin Lance Black, the same guy who wrote the screenplay for Milk and, from his speech at the Academy Awards, has an axe to grind with the Church. I agree with the previous posts…don’t give this controvery oxygen and it will die a quick death.

  17. Kristin

    “clearly have a vindictive attitude towards the Church, making it out to be something it is not, and perpetuating misconceptions such as Mormons as polygamists”

    I came across your article while looking up Big Love on the internet and read the above quote. I am not a member of the LDS Church, but wanted offer my opinion, for what it’s worth. I am a viewer of Big Love, and I have to say that first of all I don’t think any intelligent person thinks mormons are polygamists, especially if they do watch Big Love. It has actually made it very clear there are huge differences between the church beliefs and those of the polygamists. I also don’t believe the show is vindictive towards your religion at all. I can obviously only speak for myself, but I watch because it shows a different kind of family in our world today, yet a lot of the issues they go through are similar to any family (communication, morals, etc). It’s just a TV show, entertainment pure and simple. However, since the main characters have evolved from an LDS background obviously reference must be made to the LDS religion, and I think the show has done a great job of showing the difference between the crazy compound religion and the regular LDS religion. I understand that whatever they are about to show on next weeks episode is something you hold sacred, and perhaps it should be given the respect you ask, but please know that most of the world aren’t going to know the difference anyway. I think the fact that so much is a secret in your religion is more of a factor of people not trusting your church and all the misbeliefs, not a TV show. I don’t want to offend you with my opinions, but simply to say that as someone not involved in your religion, it doesn’t make sense to me why you are so offended by something that most of us are going to forget about the day after watching the show anyway. I really don’t think the world will be buzzing the next day about what ‘those crazy mormons do in their temples’. Again, I believe everyone deserves respect, and I’m not trying to offend at all, just to say it’s really no big deal to the rest of the world.

  18. When I first heard about this upcoming episode on HBO, I was shocked that the line was crossed and deeply concerned that the show would riducle our sacred vows.

    I really appreciated this post, and the comments from Joseph Smith. I felt the spirit very strong when I read what he had prophesied.

    I feel that this show will be used for good. I hope that this encourages investigators to ask questions about what they may see and the purposes behind the endowment session.

    I share my tetsimony to the world that the church is true and that it has been restored to glory once again upon the face of the earth. I invite all you read this post to search out Christ and come unto him.

    Dwayne Roberts
    Mount Juliet, TN

  19. Sean

    This television show won’t hinder the work of the Lord. However, for those who have not been to the temple it will make things confusing. I cringe to think that something so holy will be displayed before an unprepared world in the name of entertainment. These ceremonies are sacred for a reason. I don’t condemn the world because they simply don’t understand what is involved here. However, the producers and writers of this show will have to answer for their actions one day and specifically how it influenced those not of our faith. We don’t need to mount any type of defense of the temple except to say that everything involved symbolizes the Savior and His atonement through parable style teaching.

  20. bman

    All religious rites, sacraments are considered sacred to those who hold them. I’ve seen a great many marriage ceremony traditions depicted on film and television. I don’t share them, understand them, but neither do I think they are strange or weird, and better yet, I understand that they are sacred to those who practice them.

    Many non-Christian religions have traditions that seem odd from viewed from an outsider’s vantage point. If an aboriginal marriage ceremony is shown on television, where is the outrage? There is none. I once watched on a show titled something like “strange and amazing videos” the marriage rituals for some group in India. It was fascinating to think that if done in another context the rituals could even be called immoral, but they weren’t under the rules of that society.

    Let’s be fair and show outrage at any artistic portrayals of all sacred religious ceremony. But I don’t think even LDS would go that far, because the classic romance comedy often ends with a marriage ceremony – I’m thinking “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” here 🙂 – and marriage is a good thing right?

    One other quick thought is that we need to distinguish more clearly between the terms secret and sacred. Most if not all the definitions of the word sacred do NOT include an element of secrecy. I think that is because sacredness has everything to do with how one holds or esteems a particular subject. What is sacred to me isn’t sacred to another, and that is okay. We must not demand that others hold our beliefs as sacred as we do, which sacredness just happens to include and element of secrecy for those of us who have actually taken the covenant upon ourselves – all others are exempt from the expectation of keeping the secret.

    I will never watch the Big Love episode because I won’t subscribe to HBO because most of the programming there is unsuitable for my home.

    I agree with the non-LDS poster that says most people will forget the ceremony the next day.

    Which leads to a much greater point, most LDS are afraid of our history. We are constantly trying to distance ourselves from practices of the past which have brought about persecution, and polygamy is a biggie in this regard. We need to get over ourselves. Most of the world’s religions have pasts that they would like to forget, but the LDS tendency to take such a hard stance in trying to eliminate it from the public consciousness is only fueling the fire. It is times like this that a little humility would do us all some good.

  21. Handel

    The best type of revenge, we are told, is the kind of revenge does not appear to be one.

    If you ask me, it is 100% obvious that there is a hidden issue why Big Love had that episode: because the person/s behind it has/have an axe to grind at the LDS Church. And it was either induced, heightened or exacerbated by Proposition 8.

    I never believed in their statement that they had to do it for the sake of the story—it’s just a piece of p.r. and a feel-good formality. Honesty in Hollywood? That’s a myth.

    The writer who is part of the production is a lapsed member who publicly expressed his hate for his LDS family background because of his sexual orientation. The actor-producer came from a part-member family and did not have a good experience about it either. And the timing–so fresh, right after the Prop 8 saga! It is so, so, so hard to believe that these things are not related to the issue.

  22. K Christensen

    Wow, thank you so much for all of this information. Bryce, I especially appreciate your comments and also believe that we should just let it die. I did not watch the episode of Big Love on TV, but I saw a small news clip from their portrayal of the endowment. I do have one question. As an endowed and sealed member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, how should we respond when a nonmember, family member or friend asks us if this portrayal is accurate? I know that the Mormon/Polygamist thing of course is not accurate, but what do I say about the portrayal of the endowment?
    Thanks K.

  23. I would suggest taking the road that the apostles do when asked specifics about the temple ceremony. I would tell them we don’t discuss the details of the temple outside the temple. That is the very issue at heart here. The TV show is “discussing” the temple ceremony in an inappropriate and disrespectful fashion. Whether it is accurate or not is really not the issue, or even relevant really.

    Then I would suggest you take the opportunity to explain what the temple is, what the endowement, covenants, promises, blessings, and other parts of the temple are, how families are sealed, and the other wonderful aspects of the temple. You might even go as far as to explain that we make promises in the temple to keep the temple endowment to ourselves.

    You could also point out that we don’t talk about the temple ceremony with other people that are endowed either outside the temple. I don’t know if all the people wondering about this issue realize we don’t talk about temple ceremonies with anyone outside the temple, even other endowed members!

  24. Bradley M

    Bryce, thank you so very much for your diligence in maintaining your site, it’s so refreshing. I appreciate your insights and how you defend and sustain the temple.

    When I first read your post, I immediately remembered a quote by Hugh Nibley. However, I couldn’t locate it until today. I apoligize that it’s late but I hope your readers will read it and benefit therefrom.

    “Even though everyone may discover what goes on in the temple, and many have already revealed it, the important thing is that I do not reveal these things; they must remain sacred to me. I must preserve a zone of sanctity which cannot be violated whether or not anyone else in the room has the remotest idea what the situation really is…. No matter what happens, it will, then, always remain secret; only I know exactly the weight and force of the covenants I have made—I and the Lord with whom I have made them—unless I choose to reveal them. If I do not, then they are secret and sacred no matter what others may say or do. Anyone who would reveal these things has not understood them, and therefore that person has not given them away. You cannot reveal what you do not know!”
    —Hugh Nibley, The Temple and the Cosmos, p. 64.

    Thanks, Bryce

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